Tuesday, May 29, 2018

What Is Your Why (Episode # ___) A Man's Best Friend


The video for this episode is a little dark. This is because the filming was done impromptu. We were sitting in the kitchen, lights off; when my grandson dropped his popcorn in front of my dog. Surprisingly the family dog did not budge. He waited and watched, then slowly eased into his role of living vacuum cleaner.

Now I know why dogs really love their young masters. Lol

https://photos.app.goo.gl/St4SnLlNgrmDzSaD3

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

HELP Me Help YOU!


There is a movie called 'Jerry McGuire' that has this clip that is a key point in the movie and for this episode of 'What Is Your Why?'

Here is the clip:


 LOL!
That's how I was feeling yesterday,
when I decided to talk 
about the importance of knowing where you are.


We are all different. We all learn differently. But when it comes to speaking and communicating with others, it's not enough to speak your own language, you also must be able to speak the language of the person you are talking to.

What do I mean?

 Let's take the matter of giving directions. 
  • How do you give directions? 
  • Do you use landmarks or street names? 
  • Is it important to be able to do both? Why? 
  • Do you know how?


Check out what my why is in this area, then share with me your why. 



What I believe is that both methods are needed and that when used together this will make it easier to be successful in getting from point A to point B. Just my opinion lol.

Isaiah 30:21 New International Version (NIV)21 Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voicebehind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”

 So What is YOUR Why?

Friday, May 11, 2018

My Hair is BOSSY!

Continuing with the theme WHAT IS MY WHY?...
... my focus this time is the care of my natural hair. 

I have been all natural since May 18, 2016. 

I decided to go natural in search of myself. That's right! I didn't know who I was except that I was bi-racial.

(At the time I went natural, I didn't even know who my father was, but that has since changed as I got the chance in August of 2017 to meet my cousin on my father's side and learn a little about who he was and some about the family. More on this story at another time.)

So my natural hair journey has been crazy amazing. Here are some pics from 2016 just to show how much my hair has grown.





These were all taken around June/ July of 2016. (Let me know if you want to see more pictures from my natural hair journey or connect with me on Facebook as I have an entire album dedicated to this transition.)

 One of the reasons why I think my hair grew really quick is because I braided it. I figured out that when I braid or twist my hair, it grows. Also, I use liquid Vitamin E in my hair regimen by adding it to my hair care products. 

So my WHY in this area is because I do want my hair to grow and I want it to be healthy and the one thing that I do know for a certainty is that Vitamin E is good for the hair skin and nails.

So here we are 2 years later (technically it will be two years on the 18th of this month) and I am just now learning what protective styles and how to do them. I have watched a lot of videos on youtube of hairstyles being done on natural hair which has helped me. 

YouTube is your friend. (lol)

I have even joined a Natural Hair group on Facebook wherein we all discuss our love for our hair and how we keep it up while encouraging others to maintain their own healthy hair care regimen. 

It was here that I learned about the LOC method and how to apply it. 
Check it out below:


I'm working it out...
and now for the end results...




I even went out and got a satin hair bonnet for my hair to further protect my style, only to find out that I got the wrong type of bonnet. Though it says that it is satin, it is really a blend that will hurt my hair. So, now I have to go to the store and find some 100% silk or 100% charmeuse material to wrap my hair up in at night so that my ends will be protected and my hair will grow even longer and healthier.

Why am I putting all of this effort into my hair?

It's simple. I want my hair to be healthy. I love myself and who I am today. Part of loving myself means that I am taking better care of myself. I am eating healthier as one of the videos posted shows. I am drinking more water which is also good for maintaining a healthy head of hair.

I should have been doing this all along, but there was a lot of broken parts of me that needed to be healed. I thank God for healing me in the private areas of my life and heart. I am feeling much better, looking better, and losing the dead weight. (YEA!) 

... and it's showing too in my hair, skin, and nails.

3 John 2 New Living Translation (NLT)
Dear friend, I hope all is well with you and that you are as healthy in body as you are strong in spirit.
3 John 2 New International Version (NIV)
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 


So What is YOUR Why?

A Perfect Mistake

What is your WHY? 

Nobody is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has uncomfortable and embarrassing moments. When it is your turn at the plate, how you handle your mistakes and embarrassing moments says a lot about you. Don't be afraid of making mistakes. Its all a part of growing up.

For example, here is my blooper of the day...



"So, why do I laugh at myself?" 
I am always making mistakes and having some type of embarrassing moment. Yet, its too much work trying to be perfect. I've come to find that my imperfections are beautiful because they give me character and spur my growth."

Here is my Why?!...


2 Corinthians 12:7-9 Living Bible (TLB)

I will say this: because these experiences I had were so tremendous, God was afraid I might be puffed up by them; so I was given a physical condition which has been a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to hurt and bother me and prick my pride. Three different times I begged God to make me well again.
Each time he said, “No. But I am with you; that is all you need. My power shows up best in weak people.” Now I am glad to boast about how weak I am; I am glad to be a living demonstration of Christ’s power, instead of showing off my own power and abilities.

What is your "why"?

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Is It OCD?

OCD is short for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It is a real disorder, but not every repeated action that a person does is obsessive nor compulsive though we might joke about it being so.

For this reason, I find it necessary to examine and share what my "why?" is. 

* why do I feel the way I do?
* why do I do the things I do?
etc.

Knowing a person's "why?" helps you to know a little more about who they are. 

Today's "why?" is centered around the fact that I organize my children's movies. 

Here is why I do this...
(Play video)




1 Corinthians 4:5 New International Version (NIV)Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God.


So What is YOUR Why?

PRESSED to Push or PUSHED to Press


What is your WHY?


Ever feel like the world is pushing against you. 



Ever feel like the world is doing all it can to get you to compromise your faith, your beliefs? 
So what are you going to do?


I push back.
Sometimes I feel that the area that I am being pressed and pushed at directly affects my personal relationship with God, and my willingness to be obedient to God's Word in spite of how it makes me look in the eyes of others who would want me to compromise my beliefs and be okay with things being done in my presence that I know that God disapproves of. Now while everyone has free will, and the freedom to choose, and while I cannot control the behaviors of others, I also should not have to compromise my own position of favor with God by being required to "approve" of something that I am clear that God disapproves of - especially in areas where God's Word is very clear about how God feels about a matter. Requiring me to make a choice in favor of someone else's ungodly behavior encroaches upon my freedom to choose to obey God. So, at the end of the day, I would rather have an individual upset with me because I didnt compromise than to jeopardize my position with God. My personal relationship with God is just that important to me.  More important to me than any other relationship.

Why?

Because God is the Source of all life. Because if it is in Him that I live move and have my being, then I am truly nothing without him.

So when Jesus says at Luke 9:25 "what does a man benefit himself if he gains the whole world but loses his own self or suffers damage?" I have to give that real consideration. 

(What would I benefit if I am not around to enjoy the relationships God affords to all people all because I did not obey God?) So, for me, God comes first.

(Plus I've learned the hard way that not listening to our loving heavenly father is not the wisest decision. Ignoring the counsel and warnings of our heavenly Father always ends up in the suffering of hard knocks that could have been avoided. Always. I repeat, what is messed up is that had we practiced listening, those struggles, heartaches, hard knocks, and mistakes could have been avoided.)

With that being said, I find that the torture stake is truly that - a torture stake. 

It is definitely not easy being a Christian today. (I can't speak for yesterday even though I am now reminded of the Martyrs for Christ, and how they were killed for their beliefs (burned alive at stakes, fed to lions, hung, etc., all because they believed in Jesus and would not compromise their faith.) Jesus told us at Luke 9:23-26 to pick up our torture stake day after day and follow him continually. 

This is our assignment - day after day if we want Jesus.

Yet, I also find that it is not necessarily the world that makes it hard to be a Christian. The difficulty comes not from the world but from those who "knew God but did not glorify him as God nor did they thank him, but they became empty-headed in their reasoning and their unintelligent heart became darkened..." and "they did not approve of holding God in accurate knowledge ...
(Romans 1:21,22,28-32)

I am referring to those who compromise Gods Word. "Although these know full well the righteous decree of God, that those practicing such things are deserving of death, they not only keep on doing them but also CONSENT with those practicing them." (Romans 1:32)

It is these ones who make it hard to be a Christian. Those that compromise the word of God. Those that try to condemn you for your own obedience by calling you "righteous over much" or by saying that you have a "religious spirit". Nevermind the fact that God said that "obedience is better than a sacrifice".

Regarding these ones the Apostle Paul wrote, "For there are many, I used to mention them often but now I mention them also with weeping, who are walking as the enemies of the torture stake of the Christ, and their finish is destruction, and their God is their belly, and their glory consists in their shame, and they have their minds upon things on the earth." (Philippians 3:18,19)

To these ones, my response comes from the Bible also. Joshua 24:15 "Now if it is bad in your eyes to serve Jehovah, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve, whether the gods that your forefathers who were on the other side of the river served or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are dwelling. BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSEHOLD, WE SHALL SERVE JEHOVAH."

Don't ask me to consent to or cosign to, to agree to or participate in anything that you know Gods Word says that God disapproves of. Just like it is written in Joshua 24:16 so too do I feel that "it is unthinkable on our part to leave Jehovah so as to serve other gods."

But let me add this...

James 4:17 says "if one knows how to do what is right and yet does not do it, it is a sin for him".
God gave us all free will. We all have the freedom to choose whether or not we will serve God - a choice that comes with consequences. (See Deuteronomy 30)

I have chosen to be obedient and serve God Almighty Jehovah following in the footsteps of Jesus Christ who said that he himself did nothing of his own will but that whatever the Father told him is what he did. (See John 5: 19-30). 

That is my choice for me and this is my why...

My desire to be obedient to God and so I do my best (though I do fail many times) to follow what I have come to understand through my personal study of Gods written word. This is my why for why I won't agree to or do a lot of things. This is not to be judgmental of anyone else and the freedoms that they have to say or do. This is simply reflective of my own personal journey as I walk with the Lord. 

1 Corinthians 10:23 New International Version (NIV)
The Believer’s Freedom
23 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.



What is your why?